Is this another one of those articles on the internet where people tell you to “think positively” No. Will this article finally get you to quit the ice cream bucket in bed and tears for 12 days scene? Most likely (if you want it to) Read on to find out 5 major truths (everything) you need to know about those feelings after your break-up. Answer this question for me: Who are you without your feelings? Probably a bag of bones. Your feelings are so beautiful a gift. They help you feel everything deeply, like the sunshine that warms you up on a cold morning and brings joy, or the intense…
Christian girl’s guide: 4 Things to look for in a man
Too many times, I’ve met a guy who seems briefly interested in me. What I do immediately after, is convince myself he’s in love, and wants to marry me. The next few days I spend waiting and observing for signs that will confirm my shaky biased assumption. I’m then disappointed because he’s not what I thought he was. “He’s not what I want” is something I say all the time. Relatable, I know. Read on: 4 Things to look for in a man. But I’m proud of it- I don’t settle for. Ever. I do it because of an extremely useful ground rule I have. Ground rule: To find out…
3 Unhealthy coping mechanisms you should avoid after your break-up
When something terrible happens, human beings do one of two things. One is to fight and resist it, the other is to run away from it. In the case of a relationship ending, the pain is the terrible thing. And from the fact that you’re reading this, I conclude you have/are experiencing deep hurt, and maybe you’re running away. This is evident through certain behaviors you might display- like the 3 we’re discussing today. Keep reading to find out what those 3 unhealthy coping mechanisms are and why you should never use them to heal after your break-up. What is a coping mechanism? Simple. A coping mechanism is any kind…
Wondering how to get over your ex? Work on these 9 things
Wondering how to get over your ex? I can’t stop telling my clients, my online community and everyone I speak to about the one true truth. And the truth is- Your breakup is not a guy problem. “Getting over” a man is not the solution to healing your pain. Pain always comes into our life with a set of possible lessons you can learn. Pain from a breakup can also teach you many things. So instead of obtaining closure or “moving on” and trying to forget some guy, what if we focused on more important goals that are centered around YOU? Moving on or getting over a guy will leave…
What happens when you stay in touch with your ex?
If you’ve done the deed and googled breakup advice, you know the term no-contact. A lot of people whine about how hard it is. So what happens if I text my ex? Can I text my ex? How long should I wait? Is it OK if I follow my ex on Instagram? Can we be friends after the breakup? Can I skip no-contact? Can I stay in touch with my ex? Stay, because the answers are here. No contact: what happens when you stay in touch with your ex? Find out… We all know the forbidden fruit effect. They tell you to stay away from the fruit, to not want…
On quiet trust
The Bible has a storefront of many characters who spent their lives simply, fulfilled their personal mission and led people to Christ quietly. Except maybe John the Baptist. Or dare I say John the screamer (see John 1:23) I’m not talking about being silent. Or tiptoeing around the house when your mom is sleeping. I’m talking about very little emotional pitter-patter, very little fearful panicking and very little questioning in the face of uncertainty, pain, change and utter suffering. So, let’s do some examples, yeah? Saint Joseph Not a word in the Bible ever credited to him. If I were him, I’d be mad. But really, it’s crazy to think…
9 Truths you need to hear after your break-up
Sometimes, TRUTHS are like ghosts- invisible. Until you make the effort to ACTUALLY see it. Because the ultimate truth of your break-up is this: If he wanted to be with you, he would’ve been. Simple. But I feel you. It’s not that simple.Your Breakup situation is as messy as a baby eating his first solid meal. It is a serious job to navigate through your varied emotions, all the overthinking, the pain, overpowering feelings pf rejection, abandonment and about a 100 other problems. Your thoughts can clouds your judgement and it can be hard to think rationally and logically. And trust me when I say that your brain contributes heavily…
YOU- a poem about God
This is a poem I wrote on one of my difficult nights back in 2019. I couldn’t be more troubled. My plans were collapsing one after another. I knew I needed to trust God. My head knew that God was in control. But my heart was so troubled, so afraid. That’s when I woke up and began to write. I poured my heart out to God and wrote a poem to convince myself of the faith I desperately needed to hold on to. Today I am taking you back in time- 2019. My old self. The part of me that thought trusting God was scary. I had a plan- 100%…
9 Things we can learn from Mother Mary
I began my Marian reflections in June 2020, very recently. It was a simple, unguided and a very scattered place to start. After 2 books, lots of YouTube videos, questions, discussions, weekly novenas, silent whisper-prayers and answered silent whisper-prayers, this is what I have come to love about our Lady. Today, 9 Things we can all learn from Mary (and start doing right away) What are some things that make Mary, Mary? Why was she chosen amongst all other women? What was so special? What did God see in a “Jewish teen girl” that almost everyone else missed? And furthermore: How can I be a “Jewish teen girl” in a…
How I pray for my future husband
You hope to find the right person in your life someday. Someone who can share your dreams, passions. Somebody with whom you can build a beautiful family. Somebody who is tall, cute, enthusiastic and loving. Someone you can be funny and silly with, someone you can watch your favorite shows with, someone with whom you can be yourself. I know. Because I hope the same things too. But it wasn’t until recently when I learned how important it is to combine hope with prayer. So, this is how I pray for my future husband. (And you should too!) How many times have I thought (and dreamed) about sharing my dream…
